![]() ![]() Events or people are simply events or people. Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you.If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject and they care about it far less than you do. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. ![]() Ease up on the internal life commentary.When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame. Only your actions are directly under your control. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel whatever you think, you think. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. ![]()
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